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Coaching for ADHD
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Therapy or Coaching?
If you have or think you have AD/HD (Attention Deficit Disorder with or without Hyperactivity), you have probably thought about therapy, or maybe even done some therapy for a while, but for many people with ADD traditional talk therapies don't work. Can Coaching help? How does Coaching differ from therapy?
Therapy focuses primarily on mood, a treatment that heals painful memories. Coaching is an education designed to guide and structure.
ADD is not an illness which needs to be cured; it is a difference at the level of basic neurological processes. It interferes with learning of all kinds from book learning to social skills. How it interferes varies from one person to another. It needs to be understood and managed. An ADD trained coach teaches about ADD, observes and reflects how ADD is affecting a client's life, and guides (nags) him to find and use tools or strategies to set directions in his life and to take responsibility for moving forward.
Therapy may also be necessary. Children with ADD often behave in a manner which draws negative comments and punishments.
"You are so lazy! You can't go out until you've cleaned up your room."
Such negative comments can have a lasting effect on a child's self image. As a child with ADD almost certainly has at least one parent with ADD, family life can become very complex and mixed up. Therapy may be necessary to treat the wounds inflicted in childhood or to unravel the complex relationships which develop.
How does Coaching work for ADD?
The difficulties posed by ADD come from the non-linear nature of the ADD brain; your thoughts may skip about from A to Z and back to B. Thus organizing clothes, papers or tasks may be a major challenge. Time has a nebulous elastic quality which means that the time to do a task is often underestimated. Planned projects are abandoned,and following through on the simplest tasks is a rarity. Social relationships are often strained by misunderstandings.
As your coach, I know you as a healthy whole individual who wants to manage his life more effectively. I help you recognize your strengths and your personal learning style and to use them to set goals and make changes in your life style to fulfill those goals. You will learn to use routines to manage everyday business.
Knowing how ADD affects your life often throws an entirely new light on past experience, removing the sense of failure and guilt which develop from a life in disarray.
Coaching is generally more flexible than therapy. Coaching can be done by telephone or in person; once a week or every day; it can be tailored to your needs.
The first requirement for a therapist is knowledge of how ADD works in people's lives. Traditional therapists are trained to consider mood as primary, to assess how a patient feels and seek the reasons for such feelings in the past. ADD is a problem of basic cognitive processes and mood may be a secondary result of those processes.
A therapist for ADD needs to be more directive than traditional methods. The traditional method of asking the patient to say whatever comes into his mind often leads to a stream of unrelated material or an aimless monologue. The therapist needs to prompt and help structure thoughts and associations. He needs to help the patient pay attention to what is important and let go of what is irrelevant.
A Multimodal Approach to AD/HD SuccessCoaching and therapy are complimentary and you may benefit the most by working with a coach and a therapist.
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